That Trashy Look

A young woman friend of Aunt Josie's approached her with a repeating complaint.  She wondered why she could not attract and/or find any high-quality men.  Acknowledging that she received plenty of attention from members of the male sex, she despaired about finding someone with whom she could form a meaningful relationship.  Without pulling any punches, Aunt Josie told her that she should re-examine how she dresses, her make-up and how she presents herself to the world at large.

Aunt Josie is no prude and has no problem with young and not-so-young women dressing suggestively if that is the image they want others to have of them.  However, dressing in a highly suggestive manner will not bring high quality men who wish to settle into their orbit.  It will garner much attention, but no real takers.  Suggestive dress and make-up also distracts men from exploring beyond the way a woman looks into her personality and internal make-up.  The man is too busy thinking about the sexual possibilities to contemplate the person beyond the externals.

Another interesting problem posed by suggestive dress is animosity from other women.  A recent article in the Science section of the New York Times set out the cattiness manifested by ostensible friends and acquaintances of a woman who was dressed suggestively.  Since friends are very helpful in introducing single women to high-quality male friends and acquaintances, this type of animosity can prove a real barrier to meeting potential mates through female friends.

So, Aunt Josie's "unadorned" advice is to drop the vamp look and dress more conservatively.  You need not sacrifice beauty, simply dress and apply make-up to achieve a more refined image.  When meeting someone worth investing in, you will not need to worry about whether they are just interested in you sexually because you will have presented a much fuller image of the genuine you.