The Love "Jones"

At some time or other, many people experience a love "addiction."  Intellectually, they know the person is wrong for them, and may even be harmful to their development and well-being, but they cannot seem to break free of the relationship.  I refer to this as a love "jones".  Aunt Josie herself has suffered from a few of these disastrous relationships and believes that no one is immune.  The operative fact in the face of a love "jones" is that it is an addiction and must be viewed and treated as such.  Some people simply accept the addiction, concluding it is not that bad for them, e.g., caffeine.  Others know that they need to get treatment to have any chance at a normal life, experiencing a normal degree of self-esteem and self-respect, for example, alcohol or narcotic use.  There is also the middle ground where we know our addiction is bad for us and resolve to break it or work on it, but generally live with it.  Aunt Josie is not an expert on addiction and advises those who truly want to lose the love "jones" to seek professional help.  It is, however, sad to see perfectly wonderful people saddled with inconsiderate losers, sacrificing their self-esteem for the sake of the love fix.  This fix never really leaves them satisfied because they know the relationship is unhealthy.

The love "jones" can be broken, but it takes genuine resolve.  You are worth it and worth someone who will treat and appreciate you.  So break the "addiction" cycle.  Harden your resolve to cut it and stay strong.